Today in our World:
As much as I love our family Sundays, I love Mondays. This is against how most people feel, but to me Monday is a fresh start. I’ve forgotten the things I wish I would have done last week & have a positive mindset of all the things we can accomplish this week.
“But you’re a stay at home mom. What do you mean you have things to do?”
…seems to be the common theme amongst friends and family lately. But we know that we are nonstop all day, aren’t we, my loves?
From when one of my little alarm clocks wake me til the minute they are in bed, mama is go-go-go. Don’t get me wrong, I love it very much. I love watching my babies grow. I love how I can predict that I will fix my coffee, get Kendall her milk with a little bit of chocolate, mix Levi’s bottle, feed Levi, & just when I’m ready to take a sip of my coffee for the first time, wouldn’t you know one of them has pooped? So my coffee is reheated & I’m ready to jump into multi-tasking between business & housewife & Kendall is ready for breakfast. I get that done & ready again to jump into whatever task I have first to complete and then Levi needs to go back to bed for his first nap. I have to remember to pull meat out of the freezer to make sure we eat and as I make a bee-line for the freezer, the other kid pooped or spilled something or just wants me to stop & snuggle for a moment. In the middle of it all, I glance at my phone & engage with messages coming in as to not get too far behind in my responses. It’s like everything is one constant motion of beginning – I begin over and over again & sometimes it takes 10 tries before I can finish one thing I set out to do. Any parent can relate to this. Some days I’m super angry before noon when I haven’t been able to accomplish a single business task and I haven’t even brushed my teeth yet or ate my own breakfast. (and angry I’m so angry, because Kendall & Levi are only little for a little amount of time). This isn’t a complaint post, this is just stating the facts about how it is in our world day in & day out.
I can’t remember the last time I sat down to enjoy a tv show or movie on my own midday. Dave & I have been in the habit of watching streaming tv shows on Netflix for an hour or so after bedtime, but that’s really not too much to ask is it? I mean, seriously, I need that time to check out & not use my brain. Sometimes I forfeit this time just to get a shower in! Mama has been getting frustrated lately with the lack of understanding from friends & family that do not understand mama is working two jobs from home – with a toddler & baby home. I cannot drop what I’m doing on a dime as I wear many hats in businessland. Yes, it’s a wonderful thing to “be the boss,” but don’t most bosses work more than the workers? I believe so. I believe most bosses take their work at home “after-hours” when others can go home to tend to their other responsibilities. I’m sure many that work in some sort of a brick & mortar building will disagree with that, but let me fill ya in… those bosses have a staff! I don’t have anyone to delegate responsibilities to. I am the accountant, the marketing guru, customer service, quality control, PR, the CEO, the CFO, the COO, the laborer, quality control, the business analyst, the sales department- all of it for my own business. I am also working several hours a week for a company that provides Photoshop Actions & resources to photographers, Colorvale®, as the Media Director. Just because I don’t go punch in a time clock outside of my home doesn’t mean I can just put things off. When I put it off to do something fun, income slows down. I make money when I put in the effort. I need to make money otherwise I will not be able to pay for this gear that so many think they are entitled to use of via free sessions or discounts just because they know me. Don’t get me started on that…
Once again, this isn’t a “Complain about my life” post. I love my life – I love how busy it is, I love how I’m doing different things every 5 minutes. I love that I LOVE my jobs & family, & friends & keeping up with our dream home & all of it so much that I do tend to get a little angry when I have to stop doing one thing that I love to move onto another thing that I love. I wish everyone had the “problem” of loving their life so much. I want to give everything my all.
People see me online often & I think that confuses them to just sitting around the house all day playing on the internet. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, the internet is where 95% of my business comes from – through my posts and people’s engagement to my posts on Facebook. (Yes, I track all of these things.) Many of my posts are scheduled in advance & I am only responding to messages and comments with my phone in hand. I see messages come in, but sometimes it’s hard to respond if I’m feeding Levi & only able to have one hand on my phone (need two thumbs to type!). Or I’m usually just glancing quickly as I’m in between tasks or my role as a mom. I often use voice to text, which makes me look grammatically silly sometimes, but it’s very time efficient to use. I am flawed in that I see messages and intend to respond quicker than I am able. It is sad to be penalized when people think I’m not responding on purpose. I mean, hellooooo, I’m busy enough to have Kendall & Levi in daycare 2x a week! And that time isn’t enough (in a working sense).
And on top of all of that, I’m a mom and that is the most time-consuming wonderful thing of all. I am lucky in the sense that my BFF, Dave, is an enormous help in our parenting & housework responsibilities. So to my sweet Kendall & Levi & readers, I am doing the best that I can. This is just a note to put it out there that I am not just sitting at home on the internet all day as it may appear. And other mothers out there, feel free to share if you can relate. I’d love to hear from you & if this could help someone you know out, that makes me happy too
P.S. This isn’t me beating my chest & trying to claim to be busier than anyone else. This is me saying do not confuse my at-home role to be one of those that sits on the couch all day. Quite frankly, it pisses me off!
And amidst all of the fun of our days, I make it a point to be aware of the precious moments taking place around me & am thankful to have the ability & talent to capture it as I see it.
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